Even though going through a divorce can be stressful and emotionally taxing, the mediation process is relatively straightforward. With an experienced mediator by your side, you’ll be able to finalize your divorce and move on with your life as quickly as possible. Here’s a closer look at how divorce mediation works and a few of the reasons many people choose this option over litigation. For more information on the benefits of divorce mediation, reach out to the experts from Divorce Options San Diego, divorce mediators San Diego couples rely on for creative solutions that support amicable divorces.
Your Divorce Options
When it comes time to divorce, there are a few different legal options to choose from. In some rare cases, divorcing couples can carry out this process on their own, but it’s important to remember the legal system is very complex. Any mistakes you make during the divorce could affect you for the rest of your life. You also have the option of a litigated divorce, but those situations tend to be quite complicated as well. During a litigated divorce, a judge will determine child support, child custody, and the division of assets.
The Basics of Mediation
With mediation, you’re going to have much more control over your future. In these situations, the two divorcing individuals will sit down with the mediator and come up with a plan for their finances and assets. Some couples also hire divorce planners who have quite a bit of experience dealing with these situations. Some mediation firms, such as Divorce Options San Diego, will perform all these services for you. During mediation, you’ll be able to give your input on various aspects of the divorce. Once the mediation is over, all parties sign a finalized document that fully outlines all the agreements.
Benefits of Mediation
There are quite a few reasons many experts suggest mediation over other divorce options. In addition to being very easy to carry out, this process is also much less stressful. Your mediator will draft a memorandum of understanding that memorializes your divorce agreements. Because Divorce Options San Diego is a full-service divorce firm, we draft the court-required marital settlement agreement as well. In addition to being a less stressful, more private process, mediation is more affordable than lengthy legal battles because there aren’t overwhelming attorney, hearing, and court fees.
How to Simplify the Mediation Process
Once you’ve agreed to divorce mediation, you’ll need to do some legwork. You must collect as much information as possible on your finances and assets, including shared bank accounts, personal bank accounts, personal income, retirement accounts, homes, vehicles, and personal property. You can also write down a list of expectations so your mediator fully understands what you’d like to get out of the mediation. With all this information in hand, your mediation appointments will go more smoothly.
When divorcing couples are looking for opportunities to make the process as smooth, respectful, and amicable as possible, there’s a fantastic alternative to the animosity and high costs of traditional divorce: divorce mediation. San Diego couples trust Divorce Options San Diego’s experienced divorce mediators to handle every aspect of their divorces quickly and with compassion. To learn how divorce mediation might be the right choice for you, call the expert mediators at Divorce Options San Diego today at (858) 281-2628.
Disclaimer: This article does not constitute legal advice. If you have any questions about your individual situation, it’s best to seek the advice of an experienced legal professional.
It’s often advised that you should do what you love, but sadly, what you love can sometimes cause conflict with who you love. Analysis of US census data shows some careers can impact marriages more than others. Professions with lower pay, odd hours, high stress, frequent travel, and high uncertainty can threaten marriages. Mingling with people in social contexts at work can also put a strain on marriages.
If these people get divorced, they may find themselves faced with new problems. Divorcing creative people or entrepreneurs poses a particular risk to the chances of a “happy divorce” because of the unreliability of income and the difficulty of determining what’s “mine” and “yours.” A “happy divorce” may seem like an oxymoron, but increasingly, people seek amicable divorces using mediation rather than traditional adversarial litigation.
So what can threaten a happy divorce when you’re divorcing a creative person or entrepreneur (or you’re the one with the creative job)? At Divorce Options San Diego, we make divorce more efficient using math, psychoanalytical tools, and financial expertise to clarify complex or uncertain situations. Using game theory, we can help you understand how your interests converge with your partner’s. We are a full-service divorce firm that can help you navigate the complexities of California law, down to the process of filling out forms if needed. We apply financial analysis to speculative income and other non-standard compensation to determine how you can divide your assets fairly. The following is a look at some of the problems you may face.
When income is based on fluctuating circumstances, from conditional bonuses and stock options to record sales and entertainment or advertising contracts, many people have to plan based on potential future income that can’t be calculated precisely. Bonuses may be tied to performance, and entertainment or advertising contracts might be conditional or not materialize at all. An album or creative project can end up taking a loss rather than making a profit. Then there’s the modern phenomenon of the social media influencer whose income is based on fluctuating follower counts and social media clout. How do you calculate these kinds of earnings and make sure divorcing partners are provided for in the future? At Divorce Options San Diego, we can help you estimate future income and create contingency plans. We can also help you determine who is entitled to what. Your spouse may not be entitled to future income, such as stocks or conditional compensation that isn’t mature yet. It’s important to be aware of the law and make sure even speculative income is handled correctly in your divorce.
Intellectual Property and Marital Property
For both artists and entrepreneurs, intellectual property is a variable that might span and/or predate the marriage. The contribution of one partner in terms of time, ideas, inspiration, etc. to the creation of intellectual property can be difficult to determine and cause a great deal of conflict. A project may have been started before the marriage but pursued throughout the marriage. One partner may have worked longer hours to support the other’s dream. These interdependencies should be explored with respect and a full consciousness of both partners’ time and energy. At Divorce Options San Diego, we approach these problems with the utmost sensitivity and deep psychological expertise.
Both partners may have taken on debt to support one partner’s artistic career or business. Both assets and debts can be shared in a marriage and considered community property under California law. These debts will also have to be factored into a plan for the future.
Who We Are and How We Can Help
At Divorce Options San Diego, our mediators are caring, educated professionals who build divorce around conflict resolution, closure, and practical solutions for your future life. We are highly qualified professional San Diego divorce mediators and certified financial planners with psychoanalytical expertise. We reframe divorce as an opportunity to generate creative, optimized solutions for your future and your kids’ future. We don’t do adversarial work, and we never represent one spouse against another. We empower divorcing spouses to own their divorces and craft sustainable, effective mutual agreements that will last long after the divorce is finalized.
We are a one-stop shop providing a bundle of essential divorce services, including paperwork, court documents, and financial analysis. We can help you complete your divorce from beginning to end. If you require help with your divorce transition, we offer divorce transition coaching, divorce coaching, life coaching, business coaching, and even interior design for your new home.
The mediators at Divorce Options San Diego are all certified financial planners who apply thorough financial analysis to your divorce to achieve an optimized result that will cover all aspects of your financial situation, including investments, property, and all other assets or debts. Our San Diego divorce mediation process provides a sophisticated review of your community property, separate property, potential community property allocations and divisions, cash flow, transitional processes, and sustainable financial planning for your divorce process.
All our mediations start with thorough background research and information gathering, which flows through the mediation process whenever necessary. At Divorce Options San Diego, we emphasize an efficient, caring process that leaves out no detail relevant to your emotional, financial, or legal situation, which allows you to get on with your life and care for your kids and yourself, both during and after your divorce. We have offices in Solana Beach, CA, but can work with you remotely at your convenience using telephone, video conferencing apps, and other forms of electronic communication. Please contact us at (858) 281-2628 for a discreet and confidential consultation to see how we can help
Divorce often generates some financial hardship, since it frequently leads to challenges such as spouses having to live on less income than before. During your divorce, you can expect to have expenses add up by the time the dissolution of your marriage is final. Understanding how much divorce costs gives you a better idea of how to plan financially for the next stage of your life. The team from Divorce Options San Diego—the experts in San Diego divorce mediation who offer a comprehensive alternative to expensive, time-consuming divorce litigation—explain how much divorces cost and how using a mediator can lower those costs significantly.
Common Expenses Incurred During a Divorce
There are certain expenses most people have to pay in California before they can get divorced. Since your divorce must be approved by the court, you’ll need to pay fees when you first file your petition for divorce. These fees are currently $435 each for both petitioner and respondent. If you’re the one initiating the divorce, you may also have other costs to cover, such as the fee required to have someone serve your spouse with the divorce papers. It’s also common to incur a few other expenses, such as having to pay for copies of important documents.
Factors that Influence How Much a Divorce Costs
There isn’t one single cookie-cutter type of divorce. Instead, your divorce involves working through a very personalized process to make decisions regarding the different aspects of your marriage. For some people, a divorce is quick and accomplished within a few short months. For others, it can drag out for years. Naturally, a divorce process that lasts for years and requires assistance from multiple professionals will cost more than one in which you’re able to keep things amicable.
Cost Difference Between Hiring Lawyers vs. Using a Mediator
One of the biggest costs you can face during a divorce is for the services lawyers and mediators provide. As a general rule, lawyers charge more than mediators. Since lawyers only work for one person at a time, you and your spouse will each need to hire your own, which at least doubles the cost of working out a divorce agreement. A two-lawyer approach can range from $50,000 to $250,000, depending on the complexity of the divorce and the level of conflict. Using both lawyers and mediators will cost about the same as hiring attorneys alone. Mediators are neutral parties who help both people involved in the divorce, which means you only have to pay one person or mediation team. At Divorce Options San Diego, our approach costs, on average, between $10,000 and $15,000.
How to Avoid a Difficult and Expensive Divorce
Most people prefer to keep their divorces as simple as possible, since it’s cheaper and less time-consuming. You and your spouse both have the ability to choose to work together to come up with an agreement everyone can live with. An experienced mediator can help you keep your divorce from becoming combative so you won’t have to go through a court trial that costs more in the long run. Although there may be a few challenges along the way, choosing to keep an open and positive mindset can help you avoid the most expensive issues that arise during a divorce.
Couples looking for an alternative to the enormously expensive adversarial manner in which divorces are usually handled should reach out to the experienced professionals at Divorce Options San Diego. We’re San Diego divorce mediators you can trust to help you dissolve your marriage in a way that’s based on respect and mutual satisfaction. Give us a call today at (858) 281-2628 to learn more.
Keeping up with essential documents is one of those necessities in life. While some people are great at keeping a perfectly organized filing system, others may find themselves scrambling to find paperwork during their divorce proceedings. Since the mediation process goes more smoothly when you have everything in order from the beginning, it helps to start gathering these important documents before your first appointment. However, keep in mind that your mediator can give you extra time and may even be able to help you find documents you can’t seem to locate right away. The professionals from Divorce Options San Diego, the experts in divorce mediation San Diego couples rely on to help them form creative solutions without going through contentious and costly divorce proceedings, offer the following advice about what documents you’ll need.
Proof of Identity and Biographical Information
The first and easiest documents to find are those that prove who you are and provide basic information about you and your family. For instance, your mediator may want a copy of your driver’s license or birth certificate. You also need to provide information about your children, such as their full legal names and birth dates.
Current Bank Account Statements
One decision that must be made during mediation is how to split up your assets. For this reason, you’ll need to bring current copies of any bank statements you have for checking and savings accounts.
Statements for Children’s Accounts
These accounts are often overlooked during a divorce. However, one of you will need to be designated as the person in charge of handling financial accounts you’ve set up for your children, such as their college funds. Depending on the decisions you make, these can be split up between you and your spouse or set up as a new account managed by a neutral party.
Copies of Income Statements
Your income can be used to determine your ability to live on your own with or without spousal support. It can also play a role in other decisions you make, such as who will pay child support and how much will be ordered. If your income tends to fluctuate throughout the year, collect statements that show the overall average. These can also be combined with other documents to provide a fuller picture of your overall income potential.
Current and Past Tax Returns
You also need your past three tax returns. If you or your partner owns a business, you’ll need tax returns for the company as well. You may also need any additional documents that go along with your tax returns, such as W-2s.
During your divorce mediation, you’ll also need to furnish information about your current insurance policies. Be ready with documents for any health or life insurance policies you have. You may also need a statement of the cash surrender for life insurance plans.
Credit Card Statements & Other Debt Records
Your mediation agreement will also cover who is responsible for any debts accumulated during your marriage. Gather all documents that pertain to your debts. Statements from your auto loan company, mortgage lender, and other creditors help you understand exactly how much is owed.
Family Trust Statements
You’ll need the documents that pertain to any and all family trusts. These include living trusts, testamentary trusts, and both revocable and irrevocable trusts.
Investment Accounts Statements
Make sure to collect documents that contain information on any investment accounts. These include IRAs, annuities, workplace savings plans—401(k), 403(b), etc.—stock options, 529 plans, stocks, bonds, CDs, mutual funds, and money market funds.
Profit & Loss Statements
If you own a small business, you’ll need profit and loss (P&L) statements that summarize the revenues, costs, and expenses incurred. Some refer to the P&L statement as a statement of profit and loss, income statement, statement of operations, statement of financial results or income, earnings statement, or expense statement.
Having all your paperwork in order can speed up the mediation process. Another great way to make divorce easier is to work with experienced divorce mediators. San Diego couples benefit in numerous ways from the expertise of the professionals at Divorce Options San Diego. With backgrounds in law, finance, conflict resolution, and psychology, we help couples end their marriages amicably so they can look forward and move on with their lives. To learn more about our revolutionary divorce mediation process, give us a call today at (858) 281-2628.
After living in disharmony for any period of time, you may be eager to get your divorce over and done with as soon as possible. Alternatively, you may be dreading the divorce and worried about all the decisions that lie ahead. The professionals from Divorce Options San Diego, the experts in San Diego divorce mediation couples rely on for alternatives to contentious and costly divorce proceedings, suggest that either way, you need to do these six things before you go through with your divorce.
1. Assess Your Marital Estate
In California, there are laws that determine how property is distributed between two parties during a divorce. The first thing you need to know is that California is a community property state. Anything you or your spouse purchased or acquired through other means in your marriage belongs to both of you. This also applies to your debts. Sit down and create a financial picture that shows exactly what you own between the two of you along with what you owe.
2. Gather Essential Documents
Your divorce mediator will need certain documents to submit with your settlement agreement to the court. Having essential documents available also helps you make important decisions and avoid potential conflicts with your spouse. For instance, you’ll need financial summaries that demonstrate what you have in your accounts. You’ll also need income statements along with bills from debtors. Create a file that holds all your important documents, and make sure to bring it to your mediation appointments.
3. Build a Support Network
Divorces are emotionally draining, and you’ll need every type of support you can pull together. Your mediator is one type of support you need in place to help you work with your spouse to come to an agreement. However, keep in mind the mediator is a neutral party who’s there to help you resolve conflicts. You may also want to add a counselor or best friend to your support network for times when you need to vent your emotions. Alternatively, seek out the services of a mediation team that also provides counseling, such as the professionals from Divorce Options San Diego, who manage all the practical, legal, financial, and psychological aspects of fair, respectful divorce agreements.
4. Secure Your Privacy
During your marriage, it’s possible you had shared accounts on social media or important accounts such as your home utilities. If you no longer share these types of accounts, you need to change your passwords so you’re more secure. Changing passwords prevents your spouse from going through and changing things that could create more conflicts as you work on your divorce.
5. Consider Your Preferences for a Shared Parenting Plan
You need to know what you want before you go into your mediation appointments. Parenting is one of the most important elements you’ll need to decide upon, and you need to know for sure if you believe your children will do best living with you as the primary caregiver. You may also want to explore other types of parenting arrangements. For instance, many parents today take on shared responsibility regarding child-rearing.
6. Think About Your Long-Term Plans
You also need to figure out some basic lifestyle choices. For instance, you need to know where you prefer to live during and after the divorce. If the divorce means you need to move, you also need to identify how much money you need to live on.
Divorce is never easy, so knowing how to prepare for it can help a great deal as you go through the process. Another great way to approach divorce is to work with experienced San Diego divorce mediators. Couples get tremendous benefits from the expertise of the team at Divorce Options San Diego. With backgrounds in law, finance, conflict resolution, and psychology, we work closely with couples, helping them end their marriages with respect and mutual satisfaction so they can move on to the next stages of their lives. To learn more about our groundbreaking divorce mediation process, give us a call today at (858) 281-2628.
Going through a divorce is a major life shift, and dealing with the change of circumstances can make you feel hopeless, alone, and depressed. There is life after divorce, though, and it can be wonderful. Remember to give yourself time and space to heal. There’s no definite timeline for how long it will take to feel better, but there are some ways to make the process easier on yourself. One of the best ways to prepare for post-divorce life is to have your divorce handled by experienced divorce mediators. San Diego couples who work with the legal and psychological experts at Divorce Options San Diego resolve conflict in ways that leave each party feeling respected, understood, and ready to start the next chapter in their lives.
Take Time for Activities You Enjoy
Maybe you’ve always had a ton of hobbies, or maybe there’s something you loved in the past but gave up or didn’t have time for during your marriage. Now is the time to revive your passions. Reading good books, gardening, taking up a sport, and crafting are all examples of good ways to pass the time and reengage with things that once made you happy.
Reach Out to Family and Friends
Spend time with your loved ones. Go out to dinner and a comedy club with an old friend, revive the tradition of family dinners with your parents, or take a weekend trip with a sibling.
Make New Connections
While it’s a good idea to wait a bit before dating after divorce to give yourself time to heal, making new friends can be very beneficial. If you love reading, see if your local library has a book club you can join. If hiking is your thing, check out local state parks to see if they have organized hiking groups on weekends. Wine tastings can be a fun way to meet new people. Think about what you enjoy or what you’ve always wanted to try and find groups or classes that enable you to do it.
Seek Out Help and Support When You Need It
Family and friends can be a wonderful resource, but if ending things with your spouse has been very traumatic for you, you may need a bit more help getting through this time. There are support groups for people who are newly separated or divorced. Speaking to other people who are going through the same thing can be very healing. Going to a counselor or therapist to work through these issues individually can also be very good for you. If you’re uncomfortable speaking to someone in person, there are apps you can download to your mobile phone that allow you to speak with a professional via text or phone.
Don’t Be Too Quick to Jump into a New Relationship
Some people thrive on being married, and after a divorce, the temptation can be strong to immediately look for a new partner. Resist this temptation. You need time to recover from your divorce, both to heal emotionally and to have space and time to think about what you really want and the best kind of relationship for you moving forward.
Major life changes are always stressful, so it’s a good idea to have caring professionals who can help you get through them in a healthy way. At Divorce Options San Diego, we provide divorce transition life coaching services in addition to divorce mediation. San Diego couples can trust us to help them with all their personal and private issues, including finances, dating, co-parenting, and moving. To learn more about how our services can be the ideal option for you and your family, call the experts at Divorce Options San Diego today at (858) 281-2628.
Disclaimer: This blog does not constitute legal advice. If you have any questions about your individual situation, it’s best to seek the advice of an experienced legal professional.
During a divorce, it’s common to focus so much on the division of property and child custody that couples sometimes forget debt is also an issue to consider. Your divorce mediation process will require you and your spouse to acknowledge all the debts that exist and make a plan for who will handle them. Understanding how this process typically works can help you make better decisions during divorce mediation. Here’s a general overview of debt and divorce from the financial and legal experts at Divorce Options San Diego—experienced professionals who provide premier San Diego divorce mediation services to couples seeking creative divorce solutions.
What Living in a Community Property State Means
California is a community property state, which means any assets and debts you accumulate during the marriage are typically viewed as both spouse’s responsibilities. For instance, a creditor can hold you responsible for a car loan your spouse agreed to without your consent. Assigning responsibility for debt after your marriage is dissolved is an essential part of your divorce mediation that protects you from being liable for unpaid debts that were accumulated during the time you were married.
How Creditors View Debt During Divorce
Creditors are usually not concerned with which spouse pays a debt. These companies and individuals simply want to get paid back. Trying to tell a credit card company you won’t pay a bill because your spouse has been using it while you were separated simply doesn’t work. For this reason, you need to carefully track your debts and payments as you proceed with your divorce to make sure they’re distributed properly during mediation.
Understanding Secured vs. Unsecured Debt
Secured debt involves loans where you have some type of property with value that can help you pay it down if you’re unable to honor your credit agreement. Cars, houses, and other pieces of physical property are often considered secured debt because a lender could repossess them if necessary. Unsecured debt represents types that don’t have something viewed as valuable to the lender. Credit cards and personal loans often fall into this category. Knowing which type of debt exists can help you make decisions about who should be responsible. For instance, the spouse who has more financial security may be the better person to take on unsecured debt, since he or she is less likely to encounter issues with making the payments.
Paying Off Debt with Assets
If possible, paying off debt during the divorce proceedings is one of the most effective ways to make both parties happy. You and your spouse may need to sell off some assets, such as an unnecessary car, for money that can then be put toward paying off a debt. Having fewer open accounts also streamlines the mediation process.
Protecting Your Credit During and After a Divorce
As you assign responsibility for each debt, you need to make sure you’re fully aware of which debts are your responsibility. In some cases, you may need to continue paying on a shared debt throughout the mediation proceedings to keep your credit history free of bad marks. Once the responsibility for debt is assigned and approved by the court, make sure to remove your ex-spouse’s name from any unshared accounts so you retain complete control over your credit.
The mediators at Divorce Options San Diego are all certified financial planners who apply thorough analysis to your divorce to achieve an optimized result that will cover all aspects of your financial situation, including investments, property, and all other assets or debts. All the practical, legal, financial, and psychological aspects of fair, respectful divorce agreements can be managed by Divorce Options San Diego’s experienced, trustworthy San Diego divorce mediators. Couples can rely on our comprehensive process, which is so thorough there won’t be a need for attorneys. Give us a call today at (858) 281-2628.
Going through a divorce involves working with your spouse to reach an agreement on important matters such as the division of property. Naturally, it’s easy to find yourself at odds with the other person, especially if your relationship was volatile toward the end of your marriage. Fortunately, entering mediation means you have a new chance to develop a creative plan that allows you both to move forward. The team from Divorce Options San Diego—professionals who offer expert divorce mediation San Diego couples rely on for creative divorce solutions—offer these six tips that can help you reach a final agreement that leaves everyone feeling heard, respected, and ready to move on.
1. Commit to Making Mediation Work
Divorce mediation relies heavily on both parties being willing to reach a compromise. While your mediator is great at alleviating tension and keeping things focused on the task at hand, you must be willing to participate. Show up for your appointments ready to discuss important topics without allowing yourself to lose control over your reactions.
2. Do Your Homework
You’ll need to bring some information to your appointments. For instance, it’s common to have the mediator request things such as income statements to help with the decision-making. Plan to gather this type of information before each appointment so you don’t get hung up waiting for an essential document.
3. Plan Time to Relax Before & After Appointments
You should treat mediation as you would any other potentially stressful event. If possible, do some deep breathing before your appointments, or plan for an enjoyable activity to take place afterward, such as going for a jog. Practicing some self-care now can promote a positive attitude that makes it easier to work through stressful decisions.
4. Try to See Your Spouse’s Side
The ultimate goal of mediation is to help both parties reach an agreement that satisfies everyone’s needs. However, it’s normal for your needs to conflict with your spouse’s. When this happens, try to see things from his or her perspective. A little give-and-take is often necessary for an agreement to be reached.
5. Know Your Boundaries
While you do need to be willing to compromise, you also need to remember that you’ll live with these decisions for a long time. Know where you need to draw the line to ensure your future happiness. Having clear boundaries can help you negotiate the issues that really matter to you.
6. Keep the Ultimate Goal in Mind
Your ultimate goal is to end your marriage with mutual respect and the financial means necessary to begin your new life. You may also have goals such as protecting your children’s happiness as you work through the mediation process. Keeping these goals in mind can help you work through each new issue that arises so you can reach an agreement on how to handle your divorce.
All the practical, legal, financial, and psychological aspects of fair, respectful divorce agreements can be managed by Divorce Options San Diego’s experienced, trustworthy divorce mediators. San Diego couples can rely on our comprehensive process, which is so thorough there won’t be a need for attorneys. To learn how we can help you with every facet of your divorce, call us today at (858) 281-2628.
There are some situations when filing for divorce cannot wait until both parties are living in the same country. Divorcing a spouse who lives in a different country is slightly more complicated but not impossible, and you can even avoid having to hire an attorney. Most, if not all, of the steps listed below can be handled for you by a divorce mediator. You can save a substantial amount of money by using a mediator instead of a lawyer when there are international implications involved with the divorce, so if you need mediators who are experienced with international divorce issues, reach out to the San Diego divorce mediators from Divorce Options San Diego.
Research California’s Long-Arm Jurisdiction Laws
The term “long-arm jurisdiction” refers to the right of the state court to exercise jurisdiction over another foreign jurisdiction. For a state to have jurisdiction, it typically requires that you live in that state for a certain amount of time and the out-of-state or out-of-country spouse must have committed certain acts that necessitate the dissolution of the marriage contract. Long-arm jurisdiction can be used to terminate a marriage, but if children and custody issues are involved in the divorce, other laws regarding subject matter jurisdiction may go into effect.
International cases are more complex because of jurisdictional issues. Some people simply flee, and a divorce in California may not mean much to someone in Iran, Saudi Arabia, or Belgium. The Hague Divorce Convention regulates the recognition of divorces that have been performed according to the correct legal process in the state where the divorce was obtained. If the countries involved are signatories to the Hague Convention, the judgment may be recorded in the foreign country.
File a Petition
File a petition for the dissolution of the marriage with your spouse. A marital dissolution petition may include financial income requirements, a list of marital assets, any debts, and child custody information.
Translate Any Documents
The marital dissolution petition and the service summons may need to be translated for them to be delivered to your spouse. Talk with the United States embassy in your spouse’s country to determine if this is necessary. If it is, you may need to hire a translator. Both the English and translated petition and service summons should be delivered to your spouse.
Talk to Your Spouse About Waiving Process Requirements
The service summons can be difficult to deliver in a foreign country. If the divorce is amicable and your spouse is willing to work with you, he or she may agree to waive the process requirements. Your spouse will need to sign an affidavit in this case stating that he or she has been served and acknowledges receipt of the petition. This affidavit should be filed with a local court.
Serve the Papers Via Voluntary Acknowledgment
If your spouse doesn’t want to waive the process requirements but is cooperative, he or she can be served the papers via a voluntary acknowledgment. Your spouse won’t be formally served with the divorce petition but will rather acknowledge he or she is willing to accept the petition via mail. This acknowledgment is signed by your spouse and filed with the court. You can then simply mail the petition to your spouse.
After all the paperwork is filed, your spouse will either come to the United States to appear before a judge to finalize the divorce or meet with you and the judge via a teleconference. The issues will be discussed and agreed upon, and the marital settlement agreement will be signed. At this point, the divorce proceeds just like any other. Most countries recognize foreign divorce decrees as long as all procedural requirements are met.
All the steps listed above can be handled for you or avoided entirely when you hire experienced divorce mediators. International cases can be solved using mediation, and it’s much more cost-effective and less complex to get things sorted out using this process. Divorce Options San Diego can help you complete your divorce from beginning to end, even if international issues are involved. When we help you with our expert San Diego divorce mediation services, we can manage all the practical, legal, financial, and psychological aspects to help you and your spouse reach a fair, respectful divorce agreement. Our comprehensive process is so thorough that, in most cases, you won’t have to hire divorce attorneys, appear before a judge, or visit a courtroom to finalize the divorce. Please contact us at (858) 281-2628 for a discreet and confidential consultation to see how we can help.
Disclaimer: This blog does not constitute legal advice. If you have any questions about your individual situation, it’s best to seek the advice of an experienced legal professional.
There are many reasons for people to get divorced, and as it turns out, your job (or your spouse’s job) could even play a role in your ultimate decision to end your marriage. Studies have shown people who work in certain industries or have particular careers are less likely to stay married than those who work elsewhere. The experts from Divorce Options San Diego—multiskilled professionals who provide premier San Diego divorce mediation services to couples seeking creative divorce solutions—offer this list of professions with the highest divorce rates. If you or your spouse do any of the jobs listed below, you may want to take note so you can avoid the problems other couples in similar positions have faced.
You’re probably not surprised to see bartending on the list. After all, the setup is perfect for creating potential problems within a marriage. Bartenders work long hours, usually late into the night. Alcohol is all around, and so are desperate people who are looking for someone to listen to their problems. Bartenders often become a hybrid of therapist and best friend, which can open the door to more intimate relationships and affairs.
Dancers are next on the list, and this sort of extends into the entertainment industry as a whole. However, dancers seem to have particular difficulty maintaining healthy marriages. It could be the intimacy those in this profession experience with partners who aren’t their spouses, which can lead to stronger bonds with people outside the marriage and create jealousy within marital relationships.
Gaming managers who work in casinos also top the list. Casinos are places where people let loose with alcohol and money—the perfect recipe for marital disaster. Not only does the “anything goes” atmosphere play a role in breaking up marriages, but the long hours can impact a relationship as well.
Being a flight attendant often means spending long hours, sometimes days and weeks at a time, away from home. As you might suspect, this can put a major strain on a marriage. Your spouse may grow tired of you being away all the time, and even when you’re home, you’re probably resting up for your next trip. Spending every night in a different city makes it hard to maintain an intimate relationship.
While temptation may impact the marriages of bartenders and casino workers, nurses aren’t typically falling for their own patients. However, they’re stressed, overworked, and spending long hours taking care of people who are sick or dying. Often, the last thing they want to do is come home and take care of someone else, which can be hard for the spouse who doesn’t work in the healthcare field, and it may even lead nurses to seek comfort from people outside their marriages who do work in their industry and understand what they go through each day.
Almost all types of factory workers are at risk for divorce. Much of it has to do with low wages. Finances can play a major role in the stability of marriages, and this is especially true for those who don’t have the money to pay for the things they want or need. Anxiety about finances can add a great deal of stress to a relationship and may eventually lead to divorce.
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