Going through a divorce is a major life shift, and dealing with the change of circumstances can make you feel hopeless, alone, and depressed. There is life after divorce, though, and it can be wonderful. Remember to give yourself time and space to heal. There’s no definite timeline for how long it will take to feel better, but there are some ways to make the process easier on yourself. One of the best ways to prepare for post-divorce life is to have your divorce handled by experienced divorce mediators. San Diego couples who work with the legal and psychological experts at Divorce Options San Diego resolve conflict in ways that leave each party feeling respected, understood, and ready to start the next chapter in their lives.
Take Time for Activities You Enjoy
Maybe you’ve always had a ton of hobbies, or maybe there’s something you loved in the past but gave up or didn’t have time for during your marriage. Now is the time to revive your passions. Reading good books, gardening, taking up a sport, and crafting are all examples of good ways to pass the time and reengage with things that once made you happy.
Reach Out to Family and Friends
Spend time with your loved ones. Go out to dinner and a comedy club with an old friend, revive the tradition of family dinners with your parents, or take a weekend trip with a sibling.
Make New Connections
While it’s a good idea to wait a bit before dating after divorce to give yourself time to heal, making new friends can be very beneficial. If you love reading, see if your local library has a book club you can join. If hiking is your thing, check out local state parks to see if they have organized hiking groups on weekends. Wine tastings can be a fun way to meet new people. Think about what you enjoy or what you’ve always wanted to try and find groups or classes that enable you to do it.
Seek Out Help and Support When You Need It
Family and friends can be a wonderful resource, but if ending things with your spouse has been very traumatic for you, you may need a bit more help getting through this time. There are support groups for people who are newly separated or divorced. Speaking to other people who are going through the same thing can be very healing. Going to a counselor or therapist to work through these issues individually can also be very good for you. If you’re uncomfortable speaking to someone in person, there are apps you can download to your mobile phone that allow you to speak with a professional via text or phone.
Don’t Be Too Quick to Jump into a New Relationship
Some people thrive on being married, and after a divorce, the temptation can be strong to immediately look for a new partner. Resist this temptation. You need time to recover from your divorce, both to heal emotionally and to have space and time to think about what you really want and the best kind of relationship for you moving forward.
Major life changes are always stressful, so it’s a good idea to have caring professionals who can help you get through them in a healthy way. At Divorce Options San Diego, we provide divorce transition life coaching services in addition to divorce mediation. San Diego couples can trust us to help them with all their personal and private issues, including finances, dating, co-parenting, and moving. To learn more about how our services can be the ideal option for you and your family, call the experts at Divorce Options San Diego today at (858) 281-2628.
