Is Compromise Mandatory for Successful Divorce Mediation?
Reaching an agreement during divorce can seem almost impossible when you’re just starting the process of ending your marriage. After all, many of the issues that led to your divorce may make it difficult to communicate. While it may seem challenging, you’ll find working through your conflicts with the help of a neutral party makes it possible to resolve many of your issues. While you may not have to compromise during divorce mediation, the team from Divorce Options San Diego—professionals who are revolutionizing the divorce process with expert divorce mediation San Diego couples trust to help them create amicable, customized divorce solutions—explain how going through this process can help you make the right decisions for your divorce.
When Divorce Mediation Is Required
In California, divorce mediation is required for some couples. You’re most likely to need to try mediation first if you have young children and need to work out a custody and child support agreement. While no one likes being told what to do, the state of California has made this a requirement for several reasons. Not only does this reduce traffic within the judicial system, but it also helps you start your divorce off on the right foot.
Why It’s Better to Resolve Things through Mediation
The decisions you must make during your divorce are very personal. No judge knows exactly what happens in your home or how you feel about things such as whether you get to keep your pets. When you think about it, you’re ultimately the one who should be in control of the next phase of your life. A divorce mediator serves as a neutral person who empowers you and your spouse to make decisions that work best for everyone. Being able to customize your divorce allows you to do things such as work around your kids’ sports schedules for visitation rather than follow a cookie-cutter model the judge puts in place.
What Happens if You Can’t Reach an Agreement
There are times when people just can’t get along. If you absolutely cannot reach an agreement, the court system will accept your case. However, this tends to delay divorces, since you’ll need to wait for a court date to open up. You may also be unhappy with what the court decides. It’s usually better to do what you can to compromise during mediation.
How to Reach an Amicable Agreement
Each person in the mediation process plays a role in how you reach an agreement. Your mediator is trained and has the experience to guide you and your spouse through the process of staying respectful of each other’s needs. If you reach an impasse, consider taking a break from the negotiations for a short period. Things often get worked out after everyone has a chance to cool off, and you’ll be glad you took the extra time to work things out with the help of your mediator.
All the financial, legal, psychological, and practical aspects of honorable, respectful divorce agreements can be managed by Divorce Options San Diego’s experienced, trustworthy divorce mediators. San Diego couples can rely on our specialized comprehensive process, which is so thorough they won’t need to hire attorneys. To learn how we can help you with every aspect of your divorce, call us today at (858) 281-2628.